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France Canada Japan and Poland according to the biography published by art dealer Andrew Baker [The Daily Telegraph] Photographer as Witness: A Portrait of Domestic Violence The following photographs were taken between Sept 2012 and Dec 2012 At 31 Shane had spent much of his life incarcerated His facial tattoos along with his criminal record made finding steady work extremely difficult and work that paid a living wage nearly impossible After his last stint in prison Shane was determined to turn over a new leaf and create a better life for himself That life as he saw it would have to include Maggie a woman 11 years his junior who was his sister’s neighbor Sara Naomi Lewkowicz Maggie and Shane’s courtship was brief but intense Shane called her every day from prison and upon his release they began to date Sara Naomi Lewkowicz Maggie had two children Memphis age 2 and Kayden age 4 Maggie had separated from their father several months prior to beginning her relationship with Shane Sara Naomi Lewkowicz One month into their courtship Shane had Maggie’s name tattooed on his neck in large black letters Sara Naomi Lewkowicz Shane had been trying to make a career as a singer in a Christian rock band while providing for Maggie and her children Sara Naomi Lewkowicz While Shane’s relationship with Memphis was decidedly less confrontational than his relationship with Kayden he still found his new role as a caregiver to two small children to be challenge to his patience "I’m just trying to do the right thing by them" he said of Maggie and her children "I’m trying to be a father to them" Sara Naomi Lewkowicz Shane’s relationship with Memphis was far less conflicted than his relationship with her brother Kayden He would constantly lavish attention and affection on Memphis while his interactions with Kayden were decidedly more ambivalent Sara Naomi Lewkowicz Within a few months of their relationship Shane moved Maggie and her children to a trailer park in Somerset Ohio The location was farther away than Maggie had ever been from her family and friends before and she said her feelings of isolation only increased over time Sara Naomi Lewkowicz Kayden lifted a chair and a toy truck over his head to show how strong he was His relationship with Shane was contentious at best and at times he displayed open mistrust and hostility toward his mother’s boyfriend Sara Naomi Lewkowicz A trip to the barbershop designed to provide a moment of male bonding for Shane and Kayden could not dissolve the tension between them Sara Naomi Lewkowicz Shane and Kayden had a strained relationship from the beginning with Shane trying to exert a strong parental presence and Kayden resisting the authoritative efforts of a man he knew was not his father Sara Naomi Lewkowicz Maggie would often say that she could sense the competition between Kayden and Shane and often felt that she was caught between their separate demands for her affection and attention Sara Naomi Lewkowicz Shane attepts to restrain Kayden so the barber could cut the back of his hair "He needs a male role model I’m trying to be that" Shane said Sara Naomi Lewkowicz The stress of Shane’s unemployment and raising two young children on very little money often took its toll on the relationship As the newness of their relationship wore off they began to argue more frequently usually about money or how Maggie focused most of her energy on the children rather than her relationship "Why can’t I be the most important one for once" Shane asked Sara Naomi Lewkowicz One night after an early birthday celebration for Memphis at a local fast food restaurant the two began to argue Shane said his main source of frustration stemmed from the fact that Maggie paid more attention to the children than she did to him Sara Naomi Lewkowicz Shane and Maggie argued in their car Maggie’s inability to devote as much attention to Shane as she devoted to her children became a constant source of strife between the two Sara Naomi Lewkowicz Maggie and Shane took a rare night out alone together singing karaoke at a local bar Sara Naomi Lewkowicz After a night out at a local bar Maggie left after becoming jealous of when another woman flirted with Shane Upon arriving home Shane flew into a rage angry that Maggie had "abandoned him" at the bar and then drove home with his friend whose house they were staying at for the week Maggie told him to get out of the house that he was too angry and that he would wake the children Sara Naomi Lewkowicz Rather than subsiding Shane’s anger began to grow and he screamed that Maggie had betrayed him at one point accusing his friend (not pictured) of trying to pursue her sexually Sara Naomi Lewkowicz At one point Shane picked Maggie up and flung her back into the kitchen as she tried to run out of the room Sara Naomi Lewkowicz As the fight continued to rage Shane told Maggie that she could choose between getting beaten in the kitchen or going with him to the basement so they could talk privately Sara Naomi Lewkowicz When Maggie refused Shane began grabbing her by the face and neck choking her "You can either get beat up here or we can go talk alone" he said "Your choice" Sara Naomi Lewkowicz As Shane and Maggie continued to fight Memphis ran into the room and refused to leave Maggie’s side She witnessed the majority of the assault on her mother As the two fought Memphis began to scream and stomp her feet Sara Naomi Lewkowicz Shane continued to scream in Maggie’s face as Memphis wedged herself between them At some point the toddler had stopped crying and began trying to soothe her weeping mother Sara Naomi Lewkowicz Around half past midnight the police arrived after receiving a call from a resident in the house (pictured at right) Maggie cried and smoked a cigarette as an officer from the Lancaster Police Department tried to keep her separated from Shane and coax out the truth about the assault Sara Naomi Lewkowicz Shane hugged Memphis goodbye before being arrested He insisted he wasn’t a bad person and that Maggie had been trying to leave the house and drive drunk with the children in the car Sara Naomi Lewkowicz Shane pled with Maggie not to let the police take him into custody crying out "Please Maggie I love you don’t let them take me tell them I didn’t do this" Sara Naomi Lewkowicz An officer from the Lancaster Police Department photographed the bruises on Maggie’s neck from where Shane had choked her "You know he’s not going to stop" the officer told Maggie as she wept "They never stop They usually stop when they kill you" Sara Naomi Lewkowicz Convincing Maggie to be examined and sign a protection order took a great deal of coaxing from the officer "I don’t want to get him in trouble" she wept "You aren’t getting him into trouble He got himself into trouble I know Shane He’s a good guy but he knows better than to do this" the officer replied Sara Naomi Lewkowicz Overwhelmed by her nerves and the shock of the abuse she suffered Maggie became sick to her stomach Sara Naomi Lewkowicz Maggie tried to pull herself together as she prepared to drive with her children to her best friend’s house for the night Sara Naomi Lewkowicz Kayden who had slept through the assault was disoriented and began to cry when he awoke Memphis remained calm and seemed mostly concerned with comforting her mother "Don’t cry mommy I love you" she said over and over Sara Naomi Lewkowicz Maggie wept on her best friend Amy’s sofa after the attack "I hate him so much" she whispered Sara Naomi Lewkowicz The day following the attack Maggie had to grapple with what would come next for her and her children She had no source of income no childcare and was afraid to return to the home she and Shane shared to retrieve her possessions She expressed intense fear that Shane would be let out on bail and come after her and called the jail several times to make sure he hadn’t been released Sara Naomi Lewkowicz Maggie sat in front of her best friend Amy’s house and smoked the morning after the assault while Kayden and Amy’s daughter Olivia age 3 played in the window Sara Naomi Lewkowicz Memphis sat on the floor of her aunt’s home crying for Maggie after having woken up from a nap She witnessed most of the attack on her mother "I want her to know that it’s not okay for someone to treat you that way that you don’t ever deserve to be treated that way" Maggie said Sara Naomi Lewkowicz In the days following the attack Maggie had time to reflect on what had occurred and decided to make an official statement to the police She said she had resumed communications with her estranged husband and the father of her children and was considering moving with her children to Alaska where he is stationed with the Army Sara Naomi Lewkowicz Overwhelmed by frustration at a long flight delay as well as by the prospect of transporting two small children all the way to Anchorage Maggie closed her eyes and tried to calm herself down Her grandfather had been given special permission by the airport to come to the gate to help her care for Memphis and Kayden After a flight delay that lasted several hours they were told the flight had been cancelled and were sent home They flew to Anchorage the following day Sara Naomi Lewkowicz Memphis stood in front of an illuminated advertisement at the Port Columbus International Airport waiting to fly to Alaska with her mother and brother to be with her father Memphis’ father is a soldier who is currently stationed in Anchorage "I want us to be a family again" Maggie said "[He] has been so understanding about everything he wants to take care of us I’m really lucky" Sara Naomi Lewkowicz Maggie and Memphis March 3 2013 More than three months since the assault Maggie has moved her family to Alaska to try to repair her marriage and give the children a chance to be closer to their father Maggie and her husband met at 14 She said theyd been on and off since eighth grade yet they always seem to find their way back to one another Sara Naomi Lewkowicz Maggie and Kayden four share a moment in the apartment they now share with Maggie’s husband Zane Sara Naomi Lewkowicz Because of his deployment and his period of separation from Maggie Zane had only met his daughter Memphis once before she moved into his home in Alaska He has embraced his new responsibilities as a father Sara Naomi Lewkowicz Kayden’s relationship with his father was diametrically opposed to his relationship with Shane The two acted like playmates but Zane had very few problems getting Kayden to respect his role as a parental figure “He just respects Zane” Maggie said of Kayden “He didn’t respect Shane He never really liked him” Sara Naomi Lewkowicz Maggie sat on the bathroom floor and cried after arguing with Zane The two had fought with some regularity over her relationship with Shane and although he had said he forgave her Zane often had a difficult time letting go of his resentment “I’m tired of apologizing” Maggie said “[Zane] cheated on me I left him It was a mistake But when does it get easier” Sara Naomi Lewkowicz The couple had argued the previous evening and in an apparent attempt to make amends Zane had offered to paint Maggie’s toenails They didn’t exchange many words and they didn’t discuss the argument or offer apologies or excuses — they simply sat together as a movie played in the background Sara Naomi Lewkowiczi LewkowiczSara Lewkowicz The morning after their argument Maggie and Zane embraced in bed The two have a host of trust issues to work through as well as their own traumas to move past "We’ve been together since we were 14" Maggie said "It’s hard not to have baggage after six years" Maggie is hopeful that she and Zane will be able to move past their problems saying that somehow they’ve always managed to find their way back to each other Sara Naomi Lewkowicz 1 of 46 Advertisement Write to Mark Rivett-Carnac at markrivett-carnac@timeasiacomIDEAS Nir Eyal is the author of Hooked: How to Build Habit-Forming Products and blogs at NirAndFarcom Theres a saying that you should never trust a skinny chef By that logic you should never trust an out of shape behavioral designer Over the past four years Ive discovered many incredible ways to hack my habits and improve my life I have taught myself to love running dramatically improved my diet and found the focus to write a bestselling book Understanding how the mind works and using it to affect my daily behaviors has yielded tremendous dividends However there is one goal thats nagged at me for years that despite my best efforts Ive never been able to achieve going to the gym consistently I hate lifting weights Hate it I disdain the strain the sweat the smells all of it The only thing I like about working out are the results Unfortunately theres no way to enjoy the benefits of going to the gym without you know actually going to the gym Thats not to say building muscle is all that important Diet has a much greater impact on body weight and health than exercise But given that Ive already hacked my diet and no longer struggle with eating right I wanted to finally get to the bottom of this stubborn challenge Why was this one goal so hard to achieve If I could figure out a way to overcome this challenge perhaps it would provide insights into how to tackle other difficult to achieve goals Habits vs Routines – There Is a Difference Recently it seems habits are everywhere A slew of new books not to mention countless blog posts and apps guarantee a whole new you by harnessing the power of habits However almost all of these well intentioned authors promise too much Many over-prescribe habits as a solution to problems they just cant fix So what are habits really According to Dr Benjamin Gardner a psychologist focusing on habit research at Kings College London "habit works by generating an impulse to do a behaviour with little or no conscious thought" Habits are simply how the brain learns to do things without deliberation These impulses can be put to good use but only certain behaviors can become habits Building a habit is relatively simple just harness the impulse For new habits to take hold provide a clear trigger make the behavior easy to do and ensure it occurs frequently For example by completely removing unhealthy food from my home and eating the same thing every morning my diet became a healthy habit I extracted the decision making process out of what I eat at home However if the behavior requires a high degree of intentionality effort or deliberation it is not a habit Although proponents of habits tout them as miracle cures for doing things wed rather not do Im sorry to say thats snake oil All sorts of tasks arent habits and never will be By definition doing things that are effortful arent habits Unfortunately this means behaviors that require hard work and deliberate practice arent good candidates for habit-formation For example although I make time for it every day writing is not a habit Writing is hard work If I waited for an "impulse" to write Id never do it To get better at writing requires concentration and directed effort to make sense of the words as they go from the research to my head and then to the screen Similarly lifting weights isnt a habit because getting stronger requires working harder So if these type of behaviors arent habits what are they Theyre routines A routine is a series of behaviors regularly practiced Routines dont care if you feel an urge or not they just need to get done When I finally realized I would never succeed at making going to the gym a habit I began looking for how to establish a routine instead NirAndFarcom: Cant Kick a Bad Habit Youre Probably Doing It Wrong 5 Horrible Habits You Need to Stop Right Now Do Not Email First Thing in the Morning or Last Thing at Night “The former scrambles your priorities and all your plans for the day and the latter just gives you insomnia” says Ferriss who insists “email can wait until 10am” or after you check off at least one substantive to-do list item Chris PecoraroGetty Images Do Not Agree to Meetings or Calls With No Clear Agenda or End Time “If the desired outcome is defined clearly… and there’s an agenda listing topics–questions to cover–no meeting or call should last more than 30 minutes” claims Ferriss so “request them in advance so you can ‘best prepare and make good use of our time together’” Sam EdwardsGetty Images/Caiaimage Do Not Check Email Constantly Batch it and check it only periodically at set times (Ferriss goes for twice a day) Your inbox is analogous to a cocaine pellet dispenser says Ferriss Don’t be an addict Tools like strategic use of the auto responder and Boomerang can help Jetta ProductionsGetty Images Do Not Carry a Digital Leash 24/7 At least one day a week leave you smartphone somewhere where you can’t get easy access to it If you’re gasping you’re probably the type of person that most needs to do kick this particular habit by nacoki ( MEDIA ARC )Getty Images/Flickr RF Do Not Let People Ramble Sounds harsh but it’s necessary Ferriss believes “Small talk takes up big time” he says so when people start to tell you about their weekends cut them off politely with something like “I’m in the middle of something but what’s up” But be aware not everyone agrees with this one (and certainly not in every situation) and you may want to pay particularly close attention to norms around chit chat when traveling internationally Reza EstakhrianGetty Images 1 of 5 Advertisement Burn or Burn A word of warning Before I share one technique I used to finally get myself to go to the gym regularly I need to share a few disclaimers First this technique as effective as it is can be dangerous It is a very good way to get you to do a routine but provides no safeguards against doing the wrong thing again and again If youre doing something counterproductive this technique will only get you to do more of it For example doing tons of sit-ups wont help you (and may actually hurt you) if youre also drinking sugary sodas every day Second this method is not good for getting other people to do things This is for personal use only so dont try and force it on people who have to do what you tell them like employees or your kids Finally this isnt the only method you can use and admittedly this is a rather brute force strain of behavior change If learning to love a behavior is an option I recommend trying a different technique For example Ive written about finding your MEA – your Minimum Enjoyable Action The MEA method is great for simple behaviors you enjoy doing I learned to love running because I always enjoyed going on walks Finding my MEA proved very effective at slowly improving my stamina until running replaced walking as an enjoyable pastime However there are certain things we just dont like doing but we must do anyway These behaviors require diligence grit hard work and consistency This is where what I call the "burn or burn" technique comes in NirAndFarcom: Your Fitness App is Making You Fat Heres Why How It Works: Now you have a choice to make Everyday when the time comes to do your routine you can chose either option A and do the routine which in my case was to feel the "burn" in the gym or option B and literally burn your money You cant give the money to someone or buy something with it you have to set it aflame Yes I know its technically illegal to destroy government tender but the reason this technique works is that you should never have to actually burn the money Instead the threat of watching your money go up in smoke makes this technique work Ive been on "burn or burn" for six months now and I havent burned a bill yet Why This Works As radical as "burn or burn" sounds theres good science to support why its so effective For one its no surprise we hate losing money But why not pay yourself for doing the routine instead of taking money away Social scientists tell us humans feel the psychological pain of loss twice as powerfully as the satisfaction of a gain a phenomenon known as "loss aversion" Furthermore people are notoriously awful at predicting their future actions "Sure Ill go to the gym tomorrow" Id say but when tomorrow came Id find an excuse The theory of hyperbolic discounting helps explain why what we say we will do in the future is not what we do when the time comes to actually do it We are "present-biased" meaning we fail to properly value benefits we wont realize for some time These psychological tendencies conspire to keep us from doing the things we know we should The "burn or burn" technique works by binding us to a financially painful contract so we cant weasel out of it when the task needs to get done In fact a similar technique was shown to be amazingly effective at helping smokers kick their addiction to cigarettes The study published in the New England Journal of Medicine found that when smokers were asked to risk their own money they were much more likely to quit Unfortunately the researchers in the smoking study found that very few smokers would agree to risk their money Perhaps these test subjects knew that if they wagered their own cash theyd have to actually stop smoking something they likely did not want to do I too struggled with starting "burn or burn" because I knew it meant Id have to actually do the uncomfortable work Then I finally realized how ridiculous this line of thinking was Why would I resist a technique that virtually guaranteed I would accomplish my goal If I wasnt ready to commit then I should forget the goal altogether But if I really wanted it I should gladly put money on the line to make sure Id do the heavy lifting After several weeks of difficult deliberation I finally made my decision I nailed the calendar to my wall taped my money to the date and put my lighter on the shelf where it still sits today and every day NirAndFarcom: How Technology Tricks You Into Tipping More Nir Eyal is the author of Hooked: How to Build Habit-Forming Products and blogs at NirAndFarcom For more insights on using psychology to change behavior join his free newsletter Contact us at editors@timecom IDEAS TIME Ideas hosts the world’s leading voices providing commentary on events in news society and culture We welcome outside contributions Opinions expressed do not necessarily reflect the views of TIME editorsEric Hewitt Basile 38 was sentenced to 198 months in prison by US District Judge Ralph Erickson He pleaded guilty to one count of receipt and distribution of materials containing child pornogrphy and three counts of possession of materials containing child pornography Basile was an associate professor in the UND John D Odegard School of Aerospace Sciences from 2014 to his arrest one year ago He was arrested Sept 8 2016 after UND administrators asked to search his work computer on a tip he may have been using it to facilitate inappropriate relationships with students according to court documents filed in Grand Forks last yearA North Dakota Bureau of Criminal Investigation agent conducted a forensic examination of the computer That examination revealed child pornography which led to a Grand Forks district judge signing a search warrant according to court documentsDetectives from the Grand Forks Narcotics Task Force the UND Police Department BCI and Homeland Security executed a warrant on Basile’s residence on Level Plains Circle in Grand Forks and seized multiple digital devicesIn an interview with detectives Basile admitted to having child porn images and videos He said he had collected about 100 images and videos from a website and stored them in a Dropbox account according to court documentsDetectives said they were able to uncover eight images on Basile’s computer These images depict male and female children between 1 and 3 years old being sexually assaulted by adult males according to the affidavitThe case was transferred to federal court in November He signed a plea agreement in March Basile will be on supervised probation for 15 years following his release He is also required to pay $20800 in assessment fees and restitution Basile will be placed in a prison near Chicago so he can be near his family Other UND casesUND has dealt with several child pornography cases in recent yearsLast July former UND chairman of Family and Community Medicine Robert William Beattie was sentenced to 12 years in federal prison for child pornography possessionIn February former UND Police officer Paul Bradley Meagher was sentenced to 10 years in prison for possessing and receiving child pornography UND aviation student Connor Brennan 20 was charged with five counts of child porn possession in Grand Forks in July His next court date is scheduled for Oct 9 His case has not been picked up in federal court at this time The decision comes amid heightened scrutiny of law enforcement following high-profile killings of unarmedblackpeople across the United States since mid-2014 and protests against systemic racism and police violence under the banner ofBlackLives MatterThe Los Angeles County District Attorney’s Office said on Thursday thatOfficerDaniel Andrew didnot use unreasonable or excessive force when he pulled Marlene Pinnock to the ground and punched her around a dozen times about the head and shouldersProsecutors said Andrew who is white had tried for several minutes to keep Pinnock from walking into traffic on the Interstate 10 freeway in Los Angeles on the evening of July 1 2014 and that she resisted his effortsThe office said the amount of force Andrew used was "legal and necessary to protectnot only his own life but also that of Ms Pinnock""When looking at all of the evidence and especially the medical reports and eyewitness accounts it becomes exceedingly clear that theofficer who was alone and struggling with Ms Pinnock precariously close to evening freeway traffic acted within the law"District Attorney Jackie Lacey said in a statementA 42-second video of the incident which was recorded on a passing motorist’s cell phone and uploaded to social media drew widespread outrage after going viralTheCaliforniaHighway Patrol said last September that Andrew had resigned from the force and that the agency agreed to pay $15 million to settle a lawsuit by Pinnock She said she was left with slurred speech after the incidentThe Los Angeles Times reported that Andrew’s last day on the job was on Tuesday retracted 43 studies for similar reasons,500 papers in multiple journals have been retracted for various reasons since 2012, (Reporting by Jeff Mason; Writing by Mohammad Zargham; Editing by David Gregorio) This story has not been edited by Firstpost staff and is generated by auto-feed. 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